Here’s a sneak peak at my new book. . .
Radishes, Bubble Baths and Harry Potter
What do radishes, bubble baths and Harry Potter all have in common?
Well, first of all, they’re three reasons why I wrote this book – and wrote it fast.
No, I wasn’t taking a hot bubble bath one night nibbling on sexy red radishes, while reading Harry Potter and suddenly got a great idea to write this book. (See how I threw the words ‘hot’ and ‘sexy’ in that sentence for a little association with me in a bubble bath?)
The real reason is because all three are examples of bad worry and anxiety advice circulating out there right now. Maybe ‘bad’ is too strong of a word. I’ll try and change it to: incomplete, not enough, steering you in the wrong direction, lacking, not smart, not the truth. Never mind. I’m sticking with ‘bad’. Let me explain.
The radishes advice was an instagram post that said radishes and other root vegetables can help with anxiety. It talked about the nutrients in them that enhance your mood and are good for grounding your lower chakras.
Now don’t get me wrong, root vegetables are so good for you in so many ways, including enhancing your mood. But, let’s just get real for a minute. Do you think that if you ate a pound of radishes a day for weeks and weeks that, other than really bad breath and I’m sure being healthier than you started, any of:
- those emotional scars you’ve been carrying around all your life
- those fears and worries that you can’t get out of your mind
- The beliefs you hold of not being good enough, worth enough, loved enough, or anything else enough
are going to somehow disappear? Even a little?
I will say that if you were to eat a pound of radishes everyday very mindfully, you could get some temporary relief from your worry and anxiety. If you were to concentrate on them while you were eating them and really savor their flavor; if you were to use all of your senses to see, smell, taste and feel them all the while; and if you were to think of how grateful you are for those radishes – then yes, your worries would be put on hold and you’d be learning the great skill of mindfulness.
But, all of those things on that list above – the needle wouldn’t move.
The next is bubble baths. And like eating radishes, no dispute here. They are so good for you. It’s a nice way to nurture yourself. Bubble baths are relaxing, calming, and soothing. But just like eating radishes, for someone who has been plagued for years with deep fears and worries; who’s life is affected by them in so many ways – bubble baths are more like putting offing, avoiding, and distracting.
Now if the advice out there told you to take a bubble bath so you can relax your mind and your body; breathe nice and gently; feel the warm water and the bubbles on your skin; and now begin to explore for a few minutes what’s going on inside that’s causing you to be upset today (I’ll show you tons of ways to do this in the chapters ahead) – then yes, that bubble bath would be so much better.
But, do you really want to keep taking bubble baths that are relaxing in a way, but all the while you’re taking them, brewing inside your mind under the surface is so much negative thoughts, suppressed emotions – and chaos? You might not know it yet, because no one’s ever told you, or if they did, you just didn’t believe them – but you can learn to begin clearing all that out. That’s what this book is all about. Do you know how much more enjoyable and relaxing those bubble baths will be?
The Harry Potter reference is not so much advice, but definitely fits along with bad anxiety practices. It comes from an adorable young illustrator who shares her personal journey with anxiety through her Instagram account. She creates cute illustrations to uplift and encourage others who might be going through tough days as well. It’s really sweet and she definitely is brightening people’s days and adding a little joy into the world.
One post of hers caught my eye, though. She talked about how she cries a lot. And not just a little, but a lot, and intensely and beyond her control and then she’ll have brief moments of peace when she’s done. She said she sees a therapist and you can just tell she’s really trying to get better. What a little trouper.
I was so compelled to help her in some way, especially since she seems to have lots of days like that, that I decided to send her a quick message saying I could give her some tips that could help if she ever wanted them. She sweetly declined, saying that meant a lot to her.
About a week later was a post of hers with an illustration of a thick book and caption saying, “Harry Potter saved my life.” She explained in the comments how those books have gotten her through tough times.
Now, I love books. I don’t go a day without reading. And I know that Harry Potter books are amazing. But, being buoyed at dark times in your life by Harry Potter is not the solution for someone who lives everyday in states like fear, sorrow and confusion.. It’s just not possible to get better this way. No matter how much wisdom is in that book, it’s not an alternative to getting inside and doing the work it takes to get really deep down happy.
The good news – and what this book is all about – is that this work doesn’t have to be hard or really intimating and strange. It’s just different. That’s ok. You’ll see in the pages ahead that these exercises are actually pretty easy – and even fun!
If you’d like to pre-order the book now, you’ll get a free E-Book to gift to someone. Just go here: https://www.simplybeinghappy.com/product/finally-worry-free-new-book/